Where Has All the Comfort Gone? Tips for When Your Comfort Reads Don’t Work

 I don’t know about you, but 2025 has required some comfort reading. There have been days when I wanted to crawl between the pages like Peter Rabbit after his mama tucks him in with chamomile tea. That’s when a lot of us re-read favorites, but what if that doesn’t work?

Flying without the emotional safety net of Peter Rabbit’s chamomile? You don’t have to. There are ways to uncover bespoke, new comfort reads, even when you’re stressed.  It starts with two questions.

Question One: What am I reaching for when I reach for a “comfort read”?

Question Two: What would be comforting right now?

Let’s start with the first question. “Comfort” means different things to different people at different times. For example, Dracula always worked for me because it evoked my cozy, perfect first reading at sixteen. Agatha Christie also worked because her mysteries engage my little gray cells in puzzles that has nothing to do with what’s causing my stress. 

Both answers give me places to start. 1. books that evoke a comforting time or experience and 2. Books that distract my stressed-out brain.

Now, for the second question. What would be comforting right now?

This can be a little harder, because if you knew you wouldn’t be asking the question. So, here are a few ways in.

Experiment with books, genres or subjects that are straight out of your left field. Try sifting through a “Best Of…” list. Try a title that you’re a little ambivalent about. I don’t read a lot of political writing, but Abundance by Ezra Klein hijacked my brain with different problems and their possible solutions. Bam. Mental distraction. 

Mine your TBR. Like, go deep. Find that book you bought for a $1 in 2017 and give it a try. You of 2017 may have left a great escape hatch for you of 2025. 

Rampant nostalgia. Go back to books from when you were a kid. Get them Goosebumps. Binge the Baby-sitter’s Club. Revisit A Wrinkle in Time because, let’s face it, It is a dark and stormy night. Go back to your childhood shelves. It’s a PB&J for your feels.

Spoil yourself by reading backwards. Pick a book, flip to the back and read the ending. Then start it from the beginning. Don’t read to find out what happens. Read to see how it gets there. It’s a way to force your brain into different thought patterns. Try it! It’s weirdly engaging. 

Go so far out of the box that you end up in a recycling center. Try webtoons. Try fanfic find what you’re looking for? Try writing it. You won’t be the only one with an Owl House shaped hole in your heart. Regardless of how you choose to engage, spend some time in a familiar fictional world. It might be the chamomile you need.

The main thing is to identify what you really need right now and let your readerly instinct guide you to where it’s hiding. Embrace the process and give yourself as much time and patience as it takes. 

Found in Translation: 8 Easy Gateways into Japanese Literature

It’s taken me an embarrassingly long time to dig into contemporary Japanese literature. When I ask myself why, the answer is usually something like “uhh…translation feels a little scary?”, which leaves me feeling pretty dissatisfied with myself. Having acknowledged this as my starting point, I thought I’d share some titles that got me from “translation’s a little scary” to gobbling up authors like Banana Yoshimoto and reading manga with my teen.

It’s all about finding accessible gateways. This will vary per person, so these titles are only a starting point. There are amazing genre translations in mystery, romance (especially in manga), horror, fantasy, science fiction and what I tend to think of as “cool, speculative, slippery stuff”, so the sky is the limit. 

Manga:

My Hero Academia by Kohei Horikoshi: Don’t let the yelling or flashy fights scare you away from this shonen masterpiece. These characters will make you feel, and it’ll give you a cultural keyhole into everything from school life, the collective good an appreciation for cold soba and mappo tofu.

Bungo Stray Dogs by Kafka Asagiri: This is the ultimate manga for book lovers. “Bungo” means “classical or literary Japanese”. All of the characters are named for writers in the Japanese and Western canons, and the mysteries are full of familiar references and tropes. If you want literary easter eggs and a primer in Japanese literature, you can’t beat it. 

On the other, darker is anything by Junji Ito. If you’re into horror—body horror, literary 

horror, paranormal horror, psychological horror, literally all the horror—check out this prolific horror manga artist. Although he’s easiest to find in the manga section, he’s also done full length works, novel adaptations, and illustrated short stories, so odds are, he’s done something that will make your skin crawl.

Light Novels:

The Apothecary Diaries: Specifically, the light novels by Natsu Hyuga, not to be confused with the manga. What’s a light novel? It’s just the novel version of a manga, (the versions often exist side by side) Personally, I find LN’s to be a little more accessible, given that I didn’t grow up reading back to front, but either way, you’re getting a great story.

The Apothecary Diaries features Mao Mao, one of the driest, most no-nonsense heroines I have ever read in any genre. The series follow Mao Mao, a young apothecary from the pleasure district to servitude in the Imperial Palace where she sleuths out mysteries like an impatient, poison loving Sherlock Holmes.  It also features a super satisfying slow-burn romance with Jinshi, her not-quite Watson.

Short Story collections / Short Novels: 

Before the Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi. This is a collection of inter-related short stories that take place in a cafe in Tokyo where you can go back to a moment in time. This was a poignant, universal read that gave me a lot of strong, quiet feelings.

Revenge: Eleven Dark Tales by Yoko Ogawa. Ogawa has written everything from short, achy books like The Housekeeper and the Professor, to The Memory Police which is set in an authoritarian dystopia that made my stomach hurt. Revenge is a tight, mean little collection that gives you all the bite and darkness of a weird true crime series.

Kitchen by Banana Yoshimoto. Oh, my gosh, I love Banana Yoshimoto! You can’t go wrong by picking up anything she’s written, but Kitchen is my favorite. It follows the friendship between a young woman mourning her grandmother and the young man who invites her to live with him and his trans mother.  It came out in 1988, but it feels shockingly contemporary, especially in the way Yoshimoto handles gender identity and the gray zones in relationships. 

After Dark by Haruki Murakami. Murakami comes with a lot of baggage, so I hesitated here. But the fact is that regardless of baggage this short novel was insightful, engaging and fun to read. Everything happens over the course of a single night as we follow Mari, a young woman in a Tokyo Denny’s. There are surreal elements, but they’re woven in so tightly that I barely noticed. It’s a good place to start with a polarizing cultural powerhouse.

These titles are just the tippy tip of the iceberg. There are as many doors into Japanese literature as there are people interested in stepping through. Don’t let the idea of translation stop you from dipping in your toe. The water’s just fine. 

Lunch with Zelda

originally published on Queen Mob’s Tea House

I am not an archivist. I’m a consulting records appraiser, which is low in a departmental hierarchy, but I like it. I move on when my contact it up, and I’m usually ready. I was especially ready after six months at the National Archives.

My contact at the Archives was a well-intentioned post-grad named Maggie. Maggie was earnest enough to labor under the false impression that co-workers should bond. After six months, I knew more about her cat than anyone should. 

Maggie was nice though and I liked her well enough, so we arranged to have lunch on my last day. We were on our way out the door when a gaggle of archivists called her name. They were celebrating someone’s promotion and wanted to know if Maggie could join them. Maggie looked torn and it got awkward real fast, so I jumped in to tell her to go ahead.

I was people’d out and happy to grab a sandwich on my way home, but Maggie is a social person and can’t imagine anyone being happy eating lunch alone with a podcast. Before I could stop her, she asked if I could come too.

There was an even more awkward, agonizing pause before a mulleted ape of an archivist said, (really grudginly) “yeah, like I guess. If she wants to”. The implication was very much that she hoped that I wouldn’t want to. The subtext was so textual that I smiled brightly and said “I’d love to come.”

Petty? Absolutely. Plus, I most certainly would not have loved to come, so I screwed myself over too. I was just reactively pissed. It’s not like Martha Lynn Baxter (the archivist ape) and I were strangers. We had worked together, (albeit unpleasantly), for six months, and I was standing next to her well-marbled ass when she extended her grudging invitation, so I’m petty, but she’s rude. Screw you, Baxter.

Zelda, who was also in the room, met my eyes. Zelda is my mountain lion. We’ve always been together. When I was a girl, she was a cub. Now that I’m in my thirties, she’s a lithe, fully grown puma, (no fucking courage jokes, please). This sort of thing runs in my family. My mom has a cheetah named Richard. They’re in their golden years now, so they bustle more than run, but they’re just happy together. That’s how it is with me and Zelda. Content to be on our own….

Anyway, now our tolerable one-on-one lunch had turned into a clusterfuck of a group activity. At least they were going to a Greek place. Zelda loves Greek.

The whole gaggle trooped to the restaurant in two’s and three’s. I walked with Zelda behind the main group. It was actually kind of sweet the way they marched down the street like homeschooled kids on a fieldtrip. Not having lunch at their desks was clearly a big deal.

The restaurant was super small, so the waitress with a bobcat girded herself as the archivists dove for seats, jockeying for position like it was high-stakes musical chairs. I hate musical chairs. I waited for the feathers to settle and took a seat at the end of the table. Zelda curled up at my feet. 

Spare staff hurried out with flat bread and fresh olives, which were absolutely delicious. Much to their credit, no one stepped on the tawny tail sticking out from under my chair. Meanwhile, the conversation rolled on, fueled by the first of four bottles of wine.

I closed my eyes. These people talked a lot, but now, thank Christ, to me, overall. Zelda was grumbling under the table, making do with the olives I slipped her while we waited for her lamb. Zelda has a punctual appetite and she gets cranky when her food is not equally punctual. With a cafe that small and group that big, it wasn’t surprising that the food was long in coming. I kept slipped her appetizers, hoping that if I gave her enough olives, the worst wouldn’t happen. This was optimistic, but you can only do your best. It’s not like I could make the kitchen move faster. 

So, the conversation flowed around the boulder of my presence, and Zelda shifted restlessly and wuffled against my ankle. I looked down and stroked her ear, which she finds soothing. I find it soothing too. Pretty soon, I was daydreaming.

“So, what’s next?”

I looked up. My old buddy, Martha Lynn Baxter, had deigned to address me. “Sorry, what was that?”

“What’s next,” she said again, pitching her voice to be heard above the chatter. “What are you going to do?”

“About what?” I asked.  I knew what she meant. I’d been passed up for a permanent position. I met her eyes and let my face slip into neutral.

“Oh, well,” she said, recalibrating her approach. “You know. Tenures don’t grow on trees.”

I smiled, trying to pass for a nice person. “Sure don’t. I’ll shake some bushes. Something will come up.”

“Whatever you say,” she said, smiling her simian smile. “Hey, I feel like I should tell you, I was the one who voted against you for the tenure position.”

I raised my brows. I wasn’t surprised by what she’d said, but I was shocked that she’d said. I looked around the table but everyone as still chatting as if she’d asked how I liked my ice tea. “Did you really,” I said, modulating my tone. Zelda gets agitated when I’m pissed. She must have sensed something though because she growled under the table. Her stomach followed. She was probably hangry. I checked the breadbasket. Empty. No sign of the waiter either. I bent and stroked her ear. Zelda shook my hand off and rounded the table before slipping back under the tablecloth.

Baxter nodded and shrugged. Baxter’s got balls, I acknowledged with reluctant respect.

“I”d love to know why,” I said, silkily.

“It was nothing personal,” Baxter said, bluffly assured. “I just couldn’t stand the thought of looking at your smug fucking face every day until I retire.”

I heard Zelda licked her chops beneath the table. I made meaningful eye contact and shook my head. She ignored me and bit Martha Lynn Baxter’s foot clean off. Baxter looked at me, expectantly. She had no idea that Zelda was tucking in.

“What do you have to say to that?”

“I’m sorry?” I asked. It’s not like me to drop a conversational thread, but having just finished her foot—clog and all—Zelda was gnawing her way through Martha Lynn’s savory calf.

“To the fact that lost a job because you’re so fucking unlikable,” Baxter clarified, oblivious to the animal chomping at her leg.

“Not much to say, is there,” I said. 

“Guess not,” Baxter jerked in her chair as Zelda gnawed at her belt. She settled back down when Zelda made it through. Martha Lynn Baxter stared at me, retaining her focus while Zelda chomped at her torso. That kind of focus is serious. I began to wonder about her.

Moments later, the waitress put Zelda’s lamb on the floor. I murmured my thanks and nudged it with my foot. Zelda probably wouldn’t eat it now. Maybe for dessert…. Across the table, what was left of Martha Lynn Baxter (not much) attacked her risotto. Zelda was still nibbling. At this point, I was pissed, but holding it together like a fucking class act. I cut into my mousaka, conversationed out.

A few minutes later, Martha Lynn Baxter was gone, leaving behind half a plate. I reached over and took a bite. The risotto was excellent—subtle, creamy, perfect. I made a mental note to order it next time. 

“Where did M.L. go?’ Oblivious to her presence, Baxter’s assistant nudged Zelda with his shoe. Zelda licked her chops. Her whiskers stood out from her muzzle, as if to salute meal. I looked pointedly at her lamb. Zelda smiled her big cat smile and bit the assistant. I shook my head and cut into my lavash. The whole department could fuck itself.

After gobbling up her second course in three happy bites, Zelda proceeded around the table, purring as she went. Incidentally, mountain lions are the only big cats that can purr—they’re exceptional that way. I love it when Zelda purrs. It’s one of my favorite things.

The din of conversation grew quieter as Zelda worked her way around the table. I could finally hear myself think, thank fuck. I poured myself a glass of wine and ordered dessert, still not full despite having helped myself to half of Baxter’s risotto. I’d just finished my baklava when Zelda ambled back. The table was empty. She sighed, fat and satisfied. I signaled for the check, but it was already covered on the Archive’s expense account, which was a pretty sweet surprise.

Zelda and I collected our things. I was absolutely stuffed. The waitress came by with Zelda’s lamb wrapped to go, but neither of us could look at it so we offered it to her bobcat. She introduced him as Mel. Then they thanked us and we left. I hadn’t eaten that much in ages. I must have been hungrier than I thought.

THE END

The Second Letter

The letter to which you have yet to respond was the one that I wished for you to see – stymied expression of feeling that I could, under the circumstances, respect. The letter, which is the last that I shall send, was sensible and restrained, full of curated lines and unspoken words. It was written from the high ground, a lovely, unregrettable view.

Unsatisfying.

The letter that I am writing now, (which, for the sake of my pride, I will not send), is the one that I wished to write. It is not smooth. It is not measured. I am writing on my skin, down the length of my leg and up again, higher and higher, to the hollow places that you kissed. I will start at my hip and scrawl, “To my terrible love,” on that curved, hard bone. I will write of the cruel silences that my tongue could not fill; of the envy that I swallowed to keep your taste in my mouth. I understood your responsibilities, your conditions, your life. I embraced my confinement in a small, lush room.

I was your escape, you said, as you kissed up my thigh. It was creamy and white when you suckled on my skin – a clean, sweet expanse of improbable trust. I rose to meet the specifications required by your precise, exacting love, you alchemist. I became an extension of you.

You worked your chemistry with every murmur and bite. Your fingers drifting over my fine cotton blouse, your hot mouth lapping the salt from my neck, I love you, I love you, I love you, you said. More ink on my skin.

I became an arching back, a twisting neck, a grasping, sucking need hungry for your rich, invisible ink. I folded myself like a paper crane and tucked myself into a pocket room – a bottle and its djinn, a ballerina in her pretty little box….

I sent you the letter that I wished for you to see. Now, I cover my skin in my very own ink, thick and black, from my pen. When every kiss is covered, I will wash the ink away. Perhaps it will stain the claw-foot tub you loved.

You are in me and on me. Your name is in my bones. I will soak and scrub until it dissolves, and the water and ink go cold. I will write until I am calm. Because I am not calm. I am not calm. I am not calm, terrible love. You are an ill-fitting skin.

Reading the Zeitgeist: Lincoln in the Bardo

I don’t tend to follow trends. I get curious when something enters the zeitgeist, but that curiosity doesn’t often extend to invested interest. Weirdly, this doesn’t happen with movies – I’m down with the zeitgeist for movies (I’m so here for you, Guardians of the Galaxy, Vol. 2). It does, however, happen with books.

Every year, out of the thousands of titles that come out, a handful become zeitgeist books. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. Gone GirlThe Girl on the Train. The Girl with All the Gifts…apparently, unless you’re Andy Weir, a book’s chances of getting lucky go up exponentially if “girl” is in the title.

When I was a bookseller, I read the zeitgeist books because people expect indie booksellers to have read them, and I think that’s only fair. But when I left bookstores and became a writer, I started digging into backlists for research and never really emerged. On the one hand, this suits me fine, because there’s a freaking ton of great books that go un(der)noticed, so dipping into that pool has a treasure hunting quality to it. On the other hand, it means that I miss out on one of the most exciting things about being a reader – discussing a popular or controversial book with a whole lot of other readers.

It’s a community thing – one that working in bookstores and libraries always facilitated for free. Unfortunately, I’ve been out of the game long enough now to have forgotten how lovely it is. It wasn’t until I scanned the media coverage on George Saunders’s debut novel, Lincoln in the Bardo that I realized how much I’d missed it. Whether I stopped because my job no longer required it, or because I got lazy, or contrary, or I just fell out of touch, I don’t know, but there’s something vital about experiencing some books in real time, first hand.

Lincoln in the Bardo has prompted discussion on multiple levels – not what it felt like to read it, but actual critical discussion that made me all nostalgic for my MA days. It’s prompted discussions about history, memory, structure, interpretation, meaning and form. People have engaged it emotionally and cerebrally, and I find that pretty exciting. So I decided to read the book.

Enough has been written about Lincoln in the Bardo that anything I say will either be redundant or trite. What I will say is that the attention it’s receiving – both blazingly positive and constructively critical – is fully deserved. Some people love the structural departure from traditional prose. Other people feel it would have worked better in a less experimental form. Personally, while I felt it had some minor weaknesses, those weaknesses were more than compensated for by the sheer emotional and artistic force of the book as a reading experience.

Reading is, at it’s very best, a visceral, connective experience. It unsettles and unmoors you. It makes you feel and question. It makes you think and discuss and engage in debate. It opens you to experiences you will never have. It builds understanding and empathy. It breeds curiosity. A book can pry you out of your emotional, mental and circumstantial shell. Judging by that standard, Lincoln in the Bardo succeeds, hands down.

That’s a really exciting thing, and it’s something I would’ve missed out on if the cranky little old lady inside me had shaken her fist at George Saunders as he walked across my lawn. What a loss that would’ve been – to experience the explosion of a book on the scene, and to discuss it with people who had also just read it, and loved it, or hated it, or not gotten it, or wanted to throw it across the room.

There’s community in the zeitgeist, and if the zeitgeist brings a book like Lincoln in the Bardo to Walmart and Target, all the better. The zeitgeist isn’t something to shake your fist at and slink away from. It’s something to engage.

On Over-Education, or The Economics of Thought

Education in the U.S. is a political topic, I want to focus on the individual’s relationship to education – specifically higher education and the pursuit of advanced degrees – and because I’m the individual that I know best, I’m going to look at this through a fairly personal lens.

As a caveat, I just want to state that I realize that I’m coming at this from a financially privileged place.

I have two advanced degrees, neither of which has led to my chosen career. Master’s degrees are costly, and mine are no different. The price is paid in time and effort, in the wobbling balance between work and life, and in so much money

I chose to pay these costs, not once but twice, and I take responsibility for those choices. But given the costs that I chose to pay, I would have expected the lack of concrete returns to distress me. And there are days when it does – deeply.

It would have been nice to see a career rise directly out of the educational foundation I laid. After all, the age of the gentleman scholar is over, and though I am no gentleman, I have scholarly predilections and a fair amount of training in that regard, which is why I can’t fully commit to bitterness at the lack of tangible returns. Although I’m distressed by the broken promise, economically speaking, of higher education, I did not come away from these degrees empty handed. Far from it.

In exchange for my time and money, I acquired the ability to analyze and critique, to research, to write critically, to communicate clearly, to document and to argue a point. I strengthened my natural tendency to wonder and find out. In short, I learned to think for myself, because while I was deciding that Derrida was a fraud and post-modernism a house of cards, while I was learning that cataloguing and classification have become ironically complicated, given their original purpose was to simplify the storage of knowledge, I was exercising the muscle of analytical dispassion. There is an intense amount of value in that, though the cost is high.

Would I have chosen to undertake two advanced degrees had I known that the gains would be of the intangible, personal sort? No. I would not. But I’m grateful that I did. My degrees haven’t yielded conventional goods, but they have brought me to a better, more thoughtful self. It’s a luxury I didn’t intend, but one I’m lucky to have had.